Wednesday, 12 March 2014

“Welcome To Holland”

As my regular followers and friends will know we have a daughter who has special needs.

I recently came across this and thought I would share it with you:

“Welcome to Holland” By Emily Perl Kingsley

“I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability – to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It’s like this……..

When you’re going to have a baby, it’s like planning a fabulous vacation trip – to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It’s all very exciting.

After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says “Welcome to Holland”.

“Holland ?!?” you say. “What do you mean Holland?? I signed up for Italy! I’m supposed to be in Italy. All my life I’ve dreamed of going to Italy.”

But there has been a change in the flight plan. You’ve landed in Holland and there you must stay.

The important thing is that they haven’t taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place , full of pestilence, famine and disease. It’s just a different place.

So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.

It’s just a different place. It’s slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you’ve been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around ….and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills…Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.

But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy…and they’re all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will sat “Yes, that’s where I was supposed to go. That's what I had planned.”

And the pain of that will never,ever,ever go away… because the loss of that dream is a very very significant loss. But… if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn’t get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things….about Holland. “


I know this is not the usual thing I post on my blog but I just wanted to share!

Have an awesome day! :o)


  1. Going to a different place than we had planned too, makes us see, feel and experiance things we would never have choosen too. We learn new things about ourseleves, like strength, kindness and love......and see people in a different light. We learn to take each day as it comes and enjoy the simpless of things...

    hugs to all,

    Diane xx

    1. Totally agree Diane! I am a much stronger person than I used to be because if we don't stand up for Sophie's rights then who will? I now see each day as a blessing as sadly there is always someone worse off!...
      hugs Aly

  2. Hi Alyson, this is just so lovely, thank you for sharing. Sophie is a lucky girl to have such a wonderful Mum and family. She always has such a beautiful smile for the camera which to me speaks volumes!! Italy may be lovely, but nowhere has Tulips as beautiful as Holland!! Sending you and Sophie hugs!!! Suzie Xxx :)

    1. Thank you Suzie! Totally agree about the Tulips and they are my favorite flower!
      Aly xxx

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